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IBC Women’s Ministry Blog – March 19, 2020

IBC Women’s Ministry Blog – March 19, 2020

 

I realized that I told a little about my grandson’s birth but really the story is my daughter’s to tell. It’s been months now since the event, we were a bit numb from so much emotion. When you hear a loved one is pregnant, you want all to be smiles and fun but the reality is that physically, emotionally, even spiritually pregnancy can be really hard … and you know parenting is really hard on many fronts. But in great parenting lives hope for the next generation… Every pregnancy carries a mix of emotions.

2 Thessalonians 3:5 May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.

My daughter shared in a previous blog about being a new parent. This is her story of a painful delivery. I thank God for my daughter and her husband, for their brave embracing of parenting and for their willingness to share a bit of their story in hopes that it would encourage another in their faith in His good care.

Blessings through Pain

By Susan Grace

Warning birth story to follow…

Early last year, I had become pregnant! Following I had 20 weeks of NONSTOP nausea. The following months I would not feel great, but the nausea was gone. Then October came and I felt amazing for the first time the whole pregnancy. I went to the doctor 2 weeks before the due date and was 1 cm dilated and 70% effaced. The next week I would be closer to 2 cm dilated and 90% effaced. The following week I was past my due date so the doctor ran tests. The sonogram showed no problems and that my baby would have hair on his head! The next week I was 3 cm dilated and had to schedule an induction. Induction morning, my husband, parents and I were at the hospital at 6 am. After getting all hooked up (7:30 am), the doctor would come in (9 am) to tell me I was already 5 cm dilated-halfway there! So naturally, we played cards. After a few rounds of spades, I started feeling some contractions (11 am). My mom and husband were great coaches. After this, I was 8 cm dilated and REALLY feeling the contractions. I wanted to have as natural a delivery as possible, so I first tried the oxygen machine, but then an epidural was on the way. Once it came I was in transition and having intense contractions, which made it really difficult to lay still on my side for the epidural, but I got it and the pain faded (12 pm)! So naturally, I took a nap. I woke up around 1 pm and Nurse Amanda said I could start pushing! I was excited and ready to be done, so we began! After 3 hours of pushing using lots of different positions, (I strained my leg on a bar) the doctor seemed pretty certain I would not be able to push the baby out. I was told 4 hours was the max time I could push without it being too risky. So I said let’s do another 30 minutes and then we could talk C-section. We prayed and prayed while I pushed, but no success. So everyone prepared for my C-section! The OR was empty, they just had to get the staff ready to go. I was being prepped for surgery and my husband was putting on scrubs. Since, they thought it would only be a few minutes until getting to the room the anesthesiologist said he would wait to give me the nausea medicine…bad decision. After throwing up, they were ready to wheel me into the OR. Once we got there, my body except my neck and head were completely numb. I was carried onto a table and my arms were strapped down. To make sure I was numb enough, my stomach was pressed on, which was a lot of pressure for an empty stomach (I wasn’t allowed to eat after 6 pm the night before). Then the doctor came in and my baby boy was out in what seemed like just a minute (7:06 pm)! We saw him real quick and then he was taken away. Then the shaking grew intense and I started dry-heaving. I was wheeled to another room when a very intense pressure started in my shoulders. I just kept repeatedly saying I feel sick and my shoulders hurt, but there was nothing anyone could do. Eventually I fell asleep. When I woke up, all was calm and I looked over to see my husband holding our baby boy. The world seemed so incredibly peaceful at this moment. Visiting hours were almost over, but the nurses were nice and let my parents come up and meet their grandson. Holding the baby while we moved into our hospital room was the most surreal part of the whole process-it was such joy! After that, my husband would have to do all the caring for baby since I couldn’t leave the bed, was on heavy pain killers, and could not stay awake. That night, I would sleep while constantly waking due to a side effect of my whole body being extremely itchy while my husband stepped into his new role of dad, what seemed to me to be all by himself. I am very thankful for my husband being so serving and never complaining during this whole process. The process was not at all what I expected, but I was amazed by how helpful the nurses were, how serving my husband was, how my mom always knows what to say, how calm I was and how my baby could be so perfect. 

As I consider the experience, my sickness and delivery were definitely not what I had wanted. I’m not sure why I had to be so sick during my pregnancy or why I would have to be induced or why I had to push for so long and still have a C-section, but I do know God can use these experiences for good. Lots of women have to go through so much harder pregnancies and deliveries and I can better sympathize and encourage others as I was somewhat able to experience many of the delivery methods. Although this pregnancy wasn’t fun, my baby’s health was never at risk, so I focus on my healthy baby. I know many babies do not survive or there are health problems. I thank God that the 9 months of suffering resulted in a life that brings me so much love, joy, happiness-real blessings.

Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

John 16:21 Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world.